The months and years leading up to your wedding can be very exciting. There are many choices to make, from choosing the perfect bridesmaid dress all your girlfriends will like to picking a venue that’s affordable and glamorous. You’re deciding whether you want the piano to play something contemporary or classic when you walk down the aisle and what entertainment you want for the party. Sometimes, all these decisions can get stressful. People might not advertise it on their Facebook and Instagram accounts, but the fact is, getting married is stressful. And it can be so stressful that your emotional health suffers.
Whether you’re experiencing cold feet, or you’re staying awake all night worrying about how you’re going to afford your big day, it’s not a good thing if you’re struggling emotionally. Luckily, here are some strategies you can use so that you stay emotionally healthy.
1 Review your budget
Chances are that one of your biggest stressors right now is money. The fact is, in 2017, the average cost of weddings in the US was $33,391, which means that it’s probably one of the most expensive things you’ve ever budgeted for and planned. Even if you’re using some money-saving strategies like hosting the reception at home or buying a used wedding dress, it can still weigh on you. Especially if you’re a young couple, or you can’t get much help from family, you might feel like you’re going to end up in debt. Which is never a good way to start a new chapter of your life.
If you haven’t done it already, create an actual wedding budget, and discuss with your new life partner what costs are worth it. If both of you are going to be miserable because of money, it’s simply better to have a smaller, simpler day. Additionally, remember to listen to your partner: sometimes, couples can disagree about money, and it’s better to deal with that before any money is spent.
2 Write down what you’re feeling–and then talk
Sometimes, when expectations are so high leading up to a wedding, it can cause couples to feel like they are drifting apart. Even though you’re both about to make a huge commitment, it can put both of you under stress, and you might not feel like you’re able to talk anymore. If this is happening, the first thing you should do is write down how you’re feeling. You might surprise yourself about what’s causing these feelings deep down. For example, maybe you feel like your future mother-in-law is too busy and your partner isn’t supporting you, which has made you resentful.
Once you’ve written down your feelings, talk to your partner about them. If you’re not exactly sure how to phrase it, ask a close friend or family member for advice. And don’t forget that you’re not alone in this. According to Zola Unveiled: “86 percent of respondents suffered on average 3+ stress-induced symptoms, including skin breakouts, hair loss, loss of sex drive, insomnia, headaches; 47 percent of couples considered eloping or getting married at city hall, and 71 percent of those surveyed said wedding planning was more stressful than major life events, like buying a home and finding a job.”
And remember, that if it is impossible to speak with your partner, you can always see a couples therapist. It’s always better to deal with these issues before you’re married so that you both feel like you’re on the same page when you say, “I do.”
3 Make healthy life choices
Finally, one old-fashioned way to deal with stress that usually works is quite simple. Just be healthy, plain and simple. Cook at home, always including fresh vegetables, and go to the gym (or another form of exercise of your choice) at least three times a week, and schedule relaxation time into your schedule. We know you’re busy, especially leading up to a wedding, but if you and your partner hold yourself accountable, you’ll stay healthier and happier. And besides, you’ll look your best on the big day!
A study of more than 130,000 people in 17 countries, it was demonstrated that there’s no limit to the benefits of exercise. Whether it’s to help with your emotions or a healthier heart, you’re better off exercising and eating well.
These are some of the best ways to deal with emotional health leading up to your wedding–which means that when the big day rolls around, you’ll be ready. What other strategies do you use to stay healthy, emotionally and physically?